Shit yeah Mike, AWESOME! What I find weird as the We-Centered person in my wife and I's relationship, and probably the more emotional person as well, is how much society tries to make me feel like I should be gay because of this. That may sound fucked up, but it's true. Ever since I spoke the words "I'm not comfortable in my own skin" on the Soul Searching Adventure I went on in February 2022, I spent a lot of time thinking on that statement. What did it mean to me, what did it mean for me, and how am I going to begin the process of leaning into it to uncover more.
What I've figured out is fuck society and the way it's trying to make me feel. I am an emotional person, I give a shit about how others feel, and I want to help them through their tough times. I don't think it's weird to notice a man and agree he is attractive, but I'll be damned if a female doesn't create straight up hormonal arousal for me. None of this shit means I am a female living in a mans body, or that I'm gay and that I'm lying to myself.
I love the concept of what you shared in this writing and I'm thankful it sparked a desire in me to put words into the world. I look forward to the next Soul Searching Adventure I can go on.
I love this Brian. And no, being the We-person doesn't make you gay at all. Some of the most masculine men I know are more communal and we focused. And you already so this is just a reminder: when people have judgements like "he's gay for being sensitive or expressing his emotions" it's often a reflection of insecurities, unmet childhood needs, etc. The hardest, but maybe most important, people to accept are those that judge us harshly. It's a huge act of love and courage to give these people grace and understand that they too are doing the best they can with the resources, information and tools available to them. Thanks for the response homie.
Shit yeah Mike, AWESOME! What I find weird as the We-Centered person in my wife and I's relationship, and probably the more emotional person as well, is how much society tries to make me feel like I should be gay because of this. That may sound fucked up, but it's true. Ever since I spoke the words "I'm not comfortable in my own skin" on the Soul Searching Adventure I went on in February 2022, I spent a lot of time thinking on that statement. What did it mean to me, what did it mean for me, and how am I going to begin the process of leaning into it to uncover more.
What I've figured out is fuck society and the way it's trying to make me feel. I am an emotional person, I give a shit about how others feel, and I want to help them through their tough times. I don't think it's weird to notice a man and agree he is attractive, but I'll be damned if a female doesn't create straight up hormonal arousal for me. None of this shit means I am a female living in a mans body, or that I'm gay and that I'm lying to myself.
I love the concept of what you shared in this writing and I'm thankful it sparked a desire in me to put words into the world. I look forward to the next Soul Searching Adventure I can go on.
I love this Brian. And no, being the We-person doesn't make you gay at all. Some of the most masculine men I know are more communal and we focused. And you already so this is just a reminder: when people have judgements like "he's gay for being sensitive or expressing his emotions" it's often a reflection of insecurities, unmet childhood needs, etc. The hardest, but maybe most important, people to accept are those that judge us harshly. It's a huge act of love and courage to give these people grace and understand that they too are doing the best they can with the resources, information and tools available to them. Thanks for the response homie.
Incredible work here bro! I took notes and everything :)
Hell yeah man I’m so glad you enjoyed it so much.