Thank you for sending this. About 5 minutes before I read this email I caught myself judging a coworker for taking the elevator up the 3 flights to our floor instead of the stairs and I thought 'oh what a lazy person, no wonder he's packed on a few pounds, I never take the elevator', and immediately felt such shame in the thought. Thank you for giving me another tool to help navigate through situations like these. Working on being a good human is hard work.
Congratulations to you and Adee on the arrival of your baby girl, two healthy children is such a wonderful gift.
I've noticed a similarity in judgement and 'coming back to your breath' when you get lost in your thoughts. I think the similarity is in noticing judgement and a need to come back to your breath is often met with a shame for having judged in the first place or having lost focus of your breath. I had a similar conversation with someone the other day about judgement, she said she doesn't judge others, which anyone who says that has got to be lying out their ass. It's reasonable and a part of human nature to judge. I think what we mean or want to mean when we say we don't judge others is that we don't judge others in ways that are unfair or unjust. We need some amount of judgement of others for safety purposes...to not if someone is trustworthy, lying, dangerous, violent, manipulative.
Well said. Judgement serves some purpose. I don’t know if I agree that people are “lying their asses off.” Rather I think people are just totally unconscious about their judgements just like they are with other thoughts and feelings.
Thank you for sending this. About 5 minutes before I read this email I caught myself judging a coworker for taking the elevator up the 3 flights to our floor instead of the stairs and I thought 'oh what a lazy person, no wonder he's packed on a few pounds, I never take the elevator', and immediately felt such shame in the thought. Thank you for giving me another tool to help navigate through situations like these. Working on being a good human is hard work.
Congratulations to you and Adee on the arrival of your baby girl, two healthy children is such a wonderful gift.
I've noticed a similarity in judgement and 'coming back to your breath' when you get lost in your thoughts. I think the similarity is in noticing judgement and a need to come back to your breath is often met with a shame for having judged in the first place or having lost focus of your breath. I had a similar conversation with someone the other day about judgement, she said she doesn't judge others, which anyone who says that has got to be lying out their ass. It's reasonable and a part of human nature to judge. I think what we mean or want to mean when we say we don't judge others is that we don't judge others in ways that are unfair or unjust. We need some amount of judgement of others for safety purposes...to not if someone is trustworthy, lying, dangerous, violent, manipulative.
Enjoyed the thoughts.
Well said. Judgement serves some purpose. I don’t know if I agree that people are “lying their asses off.” Rather I think people are just totally unconscious about their judgements just like they are with other thoughts and feelings.